This book is very good in helping to understand the different roles that people play when the bullying is occurring.
The Bully, the bullied, and the bystander
It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. ...
Coloroso starts her book with a quote from the
movie Chocolat -Pere Henri-
I think we can't go around measuring our goodness by what we don't do, by what we deny ourselves,
what we resist, and who we exclude. I think we've got to measure goodness by what we embrace,
what we create, and who we include.
Overview
It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition of The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators gives parents, caregivers, educators—and most of all, kids—the tools to break the cycle of violence.
Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth, and her wide experience in the areas of conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, Barbara Coloroso explains:
what bullying is and what it isn't
the three kinds of bullying
the differences and similarities between boy and girl bullies
how to read the subtle clues that a child is being bullied
seven steps to take if your child is a bully
four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to a bully
why zero tolerance policies can equal zero thinking
why contempt, not anger, drives bullying, and how to confront this in bullies
