Found this book: The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander by Barbara Coloroso

    This book is very good in helping to understand the different roles that people play when the bullying is occurring. 



The Bully, the bullied, and the bystander

Book by Barbara Coloroso

It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. ...

Published: 2002 
Author: Barbara Coloroso

 

 

 

Coloroso starts her book with a quote from the

 movie Chocolat -Pere Henri-

 

I think we can't go around measuring our goodness by what we don't do, by what we deny ourselves,

 

what we resist, and who we exclude.  I think we've got to measure goodness by what we embrace,

 

what we create, and who we include.

Overview

It's the deadliest combination going: bullies who terrorize, bullied kids who are afraid to tell, bystanders who watch, and adults who see the incidents as a normal part of childhood. All it takes to understand that this is a recipe for tragedy is a glance at headlines across the country. In this updated edition of The Bully, the Bullied, and the Bystander, which includes a new section on cyberbullying, one of the world's most trusted parenting educators gives parents, caregivers, educators—and most of all, kids—the tools to break the cycle of violence.

Drawing on her decades of work with troubled youth, and her wide experience in the areas of conflict resolution and reconciliatory justice, Barbara Coloroso explains:

Readers learn:

•   what bullying is and what it isn't
•   the three kinds of bullying 
•   the differences and similarities between boy and girl bullies
•   how to read the subtle clues that a child is being bullied
•  seven steps to take if your child is a bully
•  four abilities that protect your child from succumbing to a bully
•  why zero tolerance policies can equal zero thinking
• why contempt, not anger, drives bullying, and how to confront this in bullies