Is There a Bully in the House?

  

 In Chapter six Coloroso covers the process of discipline that the act of punishment does not have:

1) It shows the bully what he has done wrong.

2) It gives him ownership of the problem.

3) It gives him a process for solving the problem he created- restitution, resolution, and reconciliation.

4) It leaves his dignity intact!


Discipline according to Coloroso is a constructive and compassionate response to bullying that takes into consideration the intent, the severity of the deed, and the restorative steps needed to help the bully take on a new, more prosocial role.

Discipline is not judgmental, arbitrary, confusing, or coercive. It is not something we do to children.  It is a process that gives life to learning; it is restorative and invites reconciliation.  Its goal is to instruct, teach, guide, and help children develop self-discipline.

The things you can do as parents:

1) Intervene immediately with discipline.
2) Create opportunities to "do good."
3) Nurture Empathy
4) Teach friendship skills-assertive, respectful, and peaceful ways to relate to others.
5) Closely monitor your child's TV viewing, video game playing, computer activities, and music.
6) Engage in more constructive, entertaining, and energizing activities.
7) Teach your child to "will good!"